The Hood will definitely be the end of me mwe! So I was in
the hood trying to locate Bana K when I saw some commotion across the road. In true
hood style I saw a steady crowd growing as everyone shameless rushed to Bana
Yuz house.
You may recall a few blogs ago I shared a story of the
couple who lost their daughter and in grief the Husband threatened one of his
in-laws saying he was going to report them to the dead child so that the child’s
ghost could haunt him for disturbing him.
Anyways that’s the couple that was responsible for drawing
the fast growing crowd. This couple is
one that is well known for stirring drama. Bashi Yu, as he is fondly called is the hero of the
women's gossip club where his wife is a member. He usually buy Chat beer for
them to drink as they gossip but he usually snaps at the slightest irritation.
Whenever this happens he takes it to the streets where he does a dress down of
these women.
Today it appeared the person that made him loose his cool is
his wife. I hurriedly went to join the nosey party making sure to poke my nose
in the business of the day after all they had chosen to wash their dirty linen
in public. As I pushed my way to the front for a good view and sound I wished
in that instance that the ground would swallow me!
The sight that greeted me was that of Bashi Yu displaying
his wife’s used sanitary towels for all to see. It didn’t seem to bother him
that the majority of the people watching were young children. He went on and on
about how lazy his wife was and how she was even failing to dispose her sanitary
towels.
I quickly pushed my way back out of the spectators arena
head down unsure whether what had embarrassed me was the sight of the towels or
the unpalatable that accompanied the display. I remembered that a few days
earlier it was menstrual hygiene day. For some reason I didn’t actively
participate. Bashi Yu’s actions left a
bad taste in my mouth because, while there have been efforts to break the taboo
around the subject his actions were meant to disrespect and embarrass his wife
in the process I too felt embarrassed.
They say one must not interfere in marital issues and even
though nothing stopped me I somehow I felt like this was beyond me. How can a
man in his right frame of mind go to such an extent as to produce intimate
property to the public as exhibit like that.
When I looked back I saw a lot of elderly women looking on
and whispering amongst themselves yet no one got up to chastise bashi Yu for
his action and while Bana Yu stood idly by watching her husband rant I couldn’t
help but walk back to set things right. Just as I was about to get to the crowd
Kaba intercepted me and said we had an important matter to discuss….it was a
distraction for me not to interfere I later realised.
My heart is not at peace. I feel I should have said
something and told that man what he did was wrong I know that silence without dissent
is consent and I know I didn’t approve of his actions. Today I saw the couple
walking hand in hand going to the market looking really happy. I realise nkani
ya chikwati ni cho vuta
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